tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post3262711674700755997..comments2023-05-30T01:51:25.784-07:00Comments on Loving life with Lexi & Ivy Joy: Is it June yet?waiting4lexi@gmail.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11756262451172179466noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-5376120981531530152019-02-05T06:52:38.243-08:002019-02-05T06:52:38.243-08:00I just found your blog. I wish there were words to...I just found your blog. I wish there were words to help, especially as the date of Ivy's going away draws near again. March 20 is my birthday. And March 22, 2016 is my younger daughter's birthday. She had a CHD as well--hypoplastic left heart syndrome. We are Jesus followers, too. Your experience resonates a lot with me. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. And that I'm certain Ivy will always be loved and remembered. Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13522165034699342277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-89447647050863958772018-07-07T13:58:33.081-07:002018-07-07T13:58:33.081-07:00I'm so glad you posted. I've been wonderi...I'm so glad you posted. I've been wondering how you are. Mothers lose children in a variety of ways and no one can truly say one way is worse than another to lose a child, but I think that when a mother devotes every moment of every day to keeping their child alive, the loss is so much harder to bear. On top of that, you had to pour out love for your new daughter in your deepest time of heartache. Perhaps God planned it that way, to give you something to keep you going, who really knows.<br /><br />A year. Seems so long, but it's such a short time.<br /><br />Please know that so many of us who have followed your blog think of you often and pray for you and hope that, as time goes by, the pain of missing your precious daughter becomes bearable and joy can creep into your heart in its place.<br /><br />I always hate it when people say, "Time will heal," and "You'll get over it," and all those other insensitive comments that are supposed to make us feel better at our time of losing someone we love. In my experience, missing my loved one isn't something I want to get over. I love them too much for that. But, in time, I found that missing them became the new normal instead of having them right there with me. And no matter how much time passes, some days miss them so much that I burst into tears. On some days I'll see someone or hear something that reminds me of them and I can smile in my sadness.<br /><br />My thoughts and prayers and love are with you, even though you don't know me. We are connected as mothers, especially as mothers of children adopted from China and children with greater needs.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033823622722768455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-5979029481066500642018-05-25T17:40:01.685-07:002018-05-25T17:40:01.685-07:00I too am a long time blog reader & have missed...I too am a long time blog reader & have missed your posts. I am so happy to hear what a blessing Charlotte is! Praying for you as you walk this journey ❤️Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09460309276596773281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-11375616612559627862018-05-21T11:13:57.488-07:002018-05-21T11:13:57.488-07:00Absolutely! Our time here is nothing compared to w...Absolutely! Our time here is nothing compared to what is yet to come. Thank you for your prayers ❤️waiting4lexi@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11756262451172179466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-91381650559938958582018-05-21T11:11:26.544-07:002018-05-21T11:11:26.544-07:00Thank you Carly. My prayers for you as well. His p...Thank you Carly. My prayers for you as well. His plan is perfect. His way > my way. The best is yet to comewaiting4lexi@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11756262451172179466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-21685135673079955052018-05-21T11:09:40.885-07:002018-05-21T11:09:40.885-07:00Love you KimLove you Kimwaiting4lexi@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11756262451172179466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-22699743112821429382018-05-21T11:09:24.151-07:002018-05-21T11:09:24.151-07:00Thank you for your sweet comment Kimberly. May you...Thank you for your sweet comment Kimberly. May your days be filled with love and joy! Marywaiting4lexi@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11756262451172179466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-63079083289393836312018-05-21T11:03:57.852-07:002018-05-21T11:03:57.852-07:00Thank you so much for sharing this post. I cannot ...Thank you so much for sharing this post. I cannot imagine the heart-wrenching pain you have endured. I have followed your blog for the past several years and my heart just breaks for you and your family. Ivy Joy was (and is) such an inspiration to so many. It is evident that her life, though way too short on this earth, touched so many other lives, and continues to touch others, like myself. I have two adopted daughters from Korea and a biological son, and like you, all I ever wanted to be was a mom. As painful as this was to read (I was literally weeping), what you wrote also uplifted and inspired me. I too am a woman of faith, and my middle name is Joy. But lately I have found myself becoming disconnected and complacent. I've allowed "the small stuff" to steal my Joy. I get easily upset with my kids and irritated by life's minor inconveniences. This post was a wake-up call for me this morning; to never lose sight of what's important; to keep my eyes and my heart fixed on the Lord; to appreciate and cherish every moment with my children and all those I love; and to live every moment with Joy and Gratitude. Thank you so much for that. And thank you for your raw authenticity and the way you put it into words. The strength of your character and faith is so inspiring, and the Love and trust that you place in the Lord is really quite remarkable. May God Bless you and your beautiful family. You will continue to be in my prayers.<br />With Love, Kimberlykimberlyjoyberghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02038851584436943014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-68124818288685782382018-05-13T09:23:09.077-07:002018-05-13T09:23:09.077-07:00Mary, Your pain is unbearable, the loss unimaginab...Mary, Your pain is unbearable, the loss unimaginable , unthinkable ... yet... I am in awe because you get up. Your strength, though you may not think so,is miraculous. The only way it can be explained is that someone is holding up you from behind. Your family...yes of course. But I know it's your faith, your love and belief in Jesus, your absolute truth that you will see precious sweet Ivy again that moves you forward. I witnessed this in China. I saw you function, love on Charolette, put on a faint smile and be polite to all around you. I witness you saying within one day: " I decided, I need to put on my big girl pants and do this for Charolette." And you did. I saw you hold it all together until you had a private place to retreat. I saw pain like no one should ever experience, to have to see. I also saw strength the likes of which no one can imagine, the will, the determination to at all cost be the best mother you possibly could be and are! As I mother, I agree, we are blessed to parent our children. I share as well, it was all I always wanted to be. But you, you my friend, have shown us all the side of Motherhood with super powers, someone who has experienced, endured, and survived the unsurvivable. The power to not let, once in a lifetime, milestones /celebration be any less than they should be all while carrying this devastation that you also did not ignore but honored Ivy in the most heartfelt ways. You still take care of everyone else, their needs, their celebrations and problems with the same detail and love as you would have done with Ivy smiling beside you. You walk through all these milestones, events sprinkling the joy they warrant and deserve. As a mom it is part of our job description to "make the magic." And you continue to do all of that while carrying a sorrow that is unbearable... yet you do. I am in tears (and have been) as I think, how is it possible that Ivy isn't with us, how can you and your family stand, walk , go on. Then ... I know... because I know you...your faith in Jesus. There is no doubt in my mind you have Mother super powers but He must have also given you some extra super mom powers. June is almost here my dear friend. You can cry when you need to, you can take time for Mary...you can call me day or night when the pain is so stabbing and raw. We will continue to honor and remember the most amazing little girl we were blessed to love...for too short of a time on earth. I love you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316556138161125002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-931442966591755972018-05-13T07:17:11.458-07:002018-05-13T07:17:11.458-07:00Oh Mary, I'm weeping with you! Thank you for s...Oh Mary, I'm weeping with you! Thank you for sharing your intimate thoughts. I hate that it hurts so much. It's not right, but yet it's God's perfect plan. That's something I'm still trying to wrap my head around myself. Thinking of you today and when I weep, I'll be praying for you too. 💜carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277152464859201025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8217696818361310354.post-4620283031469746062018-05-13T00:18:28.421-07:002018-05-13T00:18:28.421-07:00Thank you for sharing. I have missed reading your ...Thank you for sharing. I have missed reading your blog and although you don't know me, my heart aches for you and your family. Remember that life is but a journey on earth and one day, you will all be together again with our heavenly Father. I pray that you have the peace you need; you are blessed with a beautiful family. Much love from the UK.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com